Jay On The Go

It turns out that while we realize that we are different than we were in the past, we expect that will will remain largely unchanged in the future. Daniel T. Gilbert, a psychologist at Harvard University calls it the "end of history illusion."  So look back and think of all the mistakes you now think you made and how you would not have done those things knowing what you know now, like dating the wrong person, or having poor habits, or not saving enough money.  According to these experts, that is exactly what you will feel 10, 20 or 50 years from now.

My mother always told me to control my emotions, hide them, and to the extent possible, never get angry or upset.  These early childhood lessons have served me well and I am fairly calm person, but occasionally, I do get disturbed by something but unable to express it.  I swallow my anger and while I have developed coping mechanisms to deal with negative emotions like these, I have experienced anxiety as a result of this.  Not good, according to University of Jena scientists Marcus Mund and Kristin Mitte.  According to them when we hold off expressing our emotions, the body still is reacting to them and during the course of this experience, the heart rate goes up, eventually leading to high blood pressure.  We all know that over a long term it can cause serious health complications. "They avoid risks and always seek a high level of control over themselves and their surroundings," according to Mund, and he could very well describing me.  His advice is t...